So, table family… how was your Christmas? I pray you found blessings even though it may have looked unfamiliar and out right strange. It was different here as it was the first time in over forty years, we haven’t had a family/friends Christmas Eve party. But I did find peace in the simplicity.
Father in heaven, help us to always see Your blessings in everything… even the unfamiliar. Open our hearts and minds to receive this message You have for each of us. In Jesus name, Amen.
Now we look ahead to a new year. I could mimic most everyone’s thoughts and say that 2020 was awful. But I’m choosing to find the blessings in the unfamiliar. I met new people through virtual platforms and that has set me on a path of writing for an on-line magazine that I’m honored to be a part of building. I’ve spent more time with my family and learned to take inventory on what needs to change. I’ve been contemplating how I need to take the reins on my physical and mental and emotional health no matter how it may look to other people. So, 2020 hasn’t been a total loss for me. I pray it hasn’t been for you either.
I kind of like the idea of a word to focus on for the new year, as I’ve mentioned in previous posts, and I’ve chosen my word. “Prepared” or “Preparation”. I desire to look more like the Proverbs 31 woman. Not in physicality but in character. I have also chosen a phrase or mantra if you will. It seems rather cliché but it’s on my heart none-the-less. I have carried with me some things that I simply need to put down or let go. Things that I’ve held on to for FAR to long.
The fact is that there will be people in our lives who will say hurtful things, do hurtful things, react in hurtful ways… it’s simply human nature. But we have a choice as to how we handle it! It can devour us or empower us.
To devour: To consume recklessly, destructively, or wantonly.
To empower: To give authority to.
Do you see the difference in definition? One destroys and one builds up. One takes while the other gives. One subtracts and the other adds. You see we can stay in a place of destruction and tearing down and consumption or we can choose to “let it go” and be built up and nourished and useful.
Isaiah 43:18-19 “Do not remember the former things or ponder the things of the past. Listen carefully, I am about to do a new thing, now it will spring forth; will you not be aware of it? I will even put a road in the wilderness, rivers in the desert.” (Amp)
God may be about to do a new thing in our lives but if we are looking back over our shoulders reflecting on all our past hurts, how can we be looking ahead to see what He is about to do? This verse asks, “will you not be aware of it?” In other words, “will you be so consumed by what has happened that you will not be paying attention to what I am doing in your life? The opportunities I have for you?”
If I can’t let go of hurts, I can’t change, I won’t be able to focus on what God has for me. The fact is, the people who have said those painful things or did painful acts or even pray painful prayers against me; they will never apologize for those things. I have learned things that have changed my opinions and altered how I proceed in my life circumstances.
The only person it’s affecting by constantly replaying and revisiting these hurts is me… is you. It’s time to take back control over my own thoughts and emotions and how I respond to them. There is only one person who can choose this for us and that’s U S!
There is another part of these verses that grabs my attention. God says He will put a road in the wilderness and a river in the desert. A wilderness is a wilderness because it is not traveled. There would be no roads in the wilderness. Deserts only receive less than ten inches of precipitation a year; some areas get less than two inches. There are few to no rivers in a desert.
Where there is no road, God will put a road. Where there is no river, God will put a river. In other words, when there seems to be a lack, God will provide the means.
If I choose to ponder and squander, then I’m the one who loses. I can spend most of my time and energy pondering the deeds and words of others that have wounded me, then I am subsequently squandering the time and energy God has given me to do better things.
May I encourage you friend to let go of some of those old hurts that only serve to hold you back? Here is three ways to help us let go…
- Imagine a rope tied to a large bundle of weights and you are having to hold on to the rope. It’s unbearable to hold on to any longer. Simply let go of the rope. Let the weight fall and take a breath of relief. You no longer have to struggle to hold on to the rope.
- Ask God in prayer to release you of the feelings you may still be having towards the person or situation that is causing you angst.
- Accept that you may not get the apology or remorse from the person who has wounded you and release the hold that person has on your life. It only serves to hold you back from moving forward and moving ahead.
The bottom line is that if you saw someone or something sitting on top of or holding down a loved one, you would intervene and try to free your loved one from the grips of restraint. Free yourself from those grips! See yourself in the place of that loved one and free yourself through Christ. Will you join me in my “Let It Go” mini-movement for 2021?
What are some things you want to focus on in this new year? What have you learned about yourself? I’d love to hear from you…
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!