Hi all! Welcome back to my table. I hope all you moms had a beautiful Mother’s Day! I surely did. It was very low-key, just the way I like it. I slept in a little bit and then had my hot beverage down on my sun porch. I turned on my Alexa to a lovely nature sounds and music playlist and opened the word of God.
I thought it befitting (albeit a little cliché) to read about the Proverbs 31 woman. Oi, she can kinda make us ladies feel inferior huh? Well that’s how I can feel sometimes after reading about her perfect, got it all together life. She’s prepared, she’s efficient, she’s organized… all the ways that I often fall short. I sometimes read about her and feel a little jealous, do you? I go so far as to recommit to being more like her starting tomorrow morning. Then the alarm goes off and I rise with the determination to have a hot hardy breakfast on the table and by the time the breakfast dishes are done, I’m wanting a break. I don’t want to even think about planning dinner yet. Now I do make out a menu for the week for shopping purposes. But I feel a little drained from trying to be Miss Proverbs 31.
However, I chose to revisit her this Mother’s Day and rather than being jealous of her, I decided to learn from her ONE STEP AT A TIME! I think that’s better for me to do instead of looking at ALL the things she’s doing well. I’ll take the first thing and work on that. The first thing Miss Proverbs does is to be a trustworthy wife: “the heart of her husband trusts in her,” (Prov. 31;11. I will strive to be the kind of wife my husband can trust his heart to.)
I want to make Miss Proverbs my mentor instead of my measuring stick. I want to glean from her, not to be mean to her. Can’t we do that sometimes? We actually accuse her of being “Miss Perfect”. Well at least I’ve done that before.
As I choose to gift myself with learning from Miss Proverbs, I pray you will join me in that. Let’s just take the first attribute that is given and focus on that. Don’t do what I’ve done before and complain to a friend, your mother, or even the dog about how dissatisfied you are with your spouse. Instead make a list of all the good things about him. I will be talking more about Miss Proverbs and what I’m learning from her. I have had life changing run-ins lately that have made me step back and realize that I’m needing guidance from Miss Proverbs and lots of other people in the bible.
The true gift is coming to a point of saying “I don’t have it all together and I don’t know everything about parenting or being a wife.” My blindness tries to fool me into thinking that because I can’t see very well that I can “see” things better than a lot of people (Insert mental image of me face palming here). It’s ok to know where God has gifted you, in fact we are supposed to know. If we didn’t, how would we ever know we were using our gifts? But it’s knowing them with humility that’s the key. Understanding that we can always learn from someone else a new and/or better way to do something. Yes, we can even learn from our kids (OOOOHH, THAT ONE STINGS A LITTLE). But it’s all part of this journey I’m on and seeking to bring others along with me is being ok with me. Knowing that there is nothing wrong with me but I can always learn and grow. So, gift yourself with a Mother’s Day gift of allowing yourself to be taught by someone else. It doesn’t mean you don’t know how to do anything on your own, it’s knowing yourself and loving yourself enough to realize it’s time to learn and grow some more.